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Are you and your spouse ready for the new year?
It's that time again…
When everyone's making resolutions and coming up with a game plan on how to make the next 12 months better than the last.
But the question is, have you and your spouse made one as a couple?
If you haven't, it's not too late...
In this episode I'm going to help the two of you ease into the new year with a resolution that will serve you, your spouse, and your relationship.
So by the end of the year, you'll feel accomplished and fulfilled in your life as a married couple.
This is the same game plan Rich and I are using to make our resolutions as well.
And ya better believe that dancing is a big part of those plans.
So, are ya ready?
Let's do it!
One thing I love about the new year is that it feels like a fresh start...
Like the slate has been wiped clean and we get to begin again.
The last thing we want to do is to live the same year over again, especially the parts that we weren't happy with.
And the great thing about making a resolution is that it gives you a chance to continue improving your life year by year.
Because that's the goal right?
To make our lives as enjoyable, meaningful, and fulfilling as we can, within the circumstances we're given.
Before we get started, I want to point out that although this episode is about helping you and your spouse make a new year's resolution for your relationship, you can also use these steps to resolve any area of your life...
Whether it's for yourself, your family, your friends, or even for your work.
And you don't have to wait an entire year either.
You can come back to this episode and apply these steps anytime you like…
Whether it's every quarter, every month, or every week.
Hey, you could even use it daily if you wanted.
Alright, let's get to it.
Step 1. Define What A Successful Year Looks Like For You And Your Spouse's Relationship
Let's talk about real life for a second.
I know that you and your spouse probably have a strong and loving relationship.
Rich and I feel the same way about ours.
But I also believe that no relationship is perfect 100% of the time, and there's always room for growth and improvement.
When I look at our relationship, I look at it in three different ways.
There are the highs, there are the lows, and there's the middle ground.
And believe it or not, each of these phases make our relationship stronger.
The highs are the highlights of our life, when we're over the moon with excitement. This is where we're making those unforgettable memories we'll remember forever.
The lows are when we're working through the struggles and challenges, whether that's directly between us, or something happening in our life. This is where we're strengthening the foundation of our relationship and growing as a couple.
And the middle ground is when we're living everyday life.
The highs will come and go, the lows will hopefully be few and far between, but the everyday stuff in the middle is a constant and makes up the majority of our life. And that's why I believe it deserves the most attention.
The way we live everyday life can directly affect the way we experience the highs and lows of life.
If we're not putting effort into having fun as a couple during everyday life, we'll probably have a hard time having fun during what we expect to be the highlight moments.
If we're not putting effort into staying connected as a couple, and nurturing our relationship, on a regular basis, we'll probably have a hard time working as a team and getting through the low moments smoothly.
So when deciding what you want your relationship to look like over the next year, I recommend considering all three of these phases and making a resolution for each of them.
First, ask yourself how you want your relationship to look during the high moments of life.
Maybe you'll want to take an exciting trip together to make more memories, or cross something off your bucket list.
Second, how do you want your relationship to look during the low moments?
Maybe you'll talk about how to get through the struggles and challenges a little easier. Like, "the next time we face this challenge, we're going to handle it this way" Or, "let's do things this way so we can avoid this"
And third, what do you want your relationship to look like while your living everyday life in the middle?
Maybe you'll shake things up every once in a while to add variety to your relationship. Or maybe scheduling weekly date nights will help the two of you have more fun together. Or maybe you'll choose a time to talk about your relationship on a regular basis so you can stay on the same page and connected as a couple.
I truly believe that deciding how you want to live everyday life, and following through with it, is the secret to living a more fun and fulfilling marriage, during the highs, the lows, and in the middle.
Alright, now that we've talked about what you want your relationship to look like this year, let's take a look at how things went last year and what needs to be left behind.
Which leads us to...
Step 2. Let Go Of Anything That Took Away From Your Relationship
This one should be pretty clear.
Take a look at the last 12 months and pinpoint anything you feel took away from your relationship with your spouse.
This could either be something that went wrong, something that caused pain or stress, or something you just didn't enjoy.
You'll want to either change these things in the new year, do less of them, or remove them all together, depending on how they affected your relationship.
What you don't want to do is keep everything the same, because you'll just repeat the process. However these things took away from your relationship last year, they'll surely take away from it again this year.
So make the necessary changes so you can enjoy a brighter future.
And last but not least...
Step 3. Keep Everything In Your Life That Made Your Relationship Better
This should also be pretty clear.
Take another look at the past 12 months, except this time identify what you feel positively impacted your relationship.
Maybe it's something the two of you really enjoyed, or something that deepened your bond, or something that helped you feel more confident as a couple.
Whatever it is, and however it impacted your relationship, figure out how to do more of it in the new year.
So, do less of what takes away from your relationship and more of what adds to it.
Simple as that.
Alright, now it's time to take action.
I want you and your spouse to sit down together with a pen and paper, and write down your new year's resolutions as a couple.
First, how do you want to live marriage to the fullest during the highs, during the lows, and most importantly, during everyday life?
Second, what are the things that didn't go well last year, that you'll either be changing, doing less of, or removing from your life this year?
And third, what went well, that you'll be continuing and doing more of in the new year?
When you're done, really envision what your relationship will look like with these changes in place, and how great it will feel to move closer to living your marriage to the fullest.
Now before I let you go, I encourage you to make dancing with your spouse one of your new year's resolutions.
It will not only help you connect as a couple and strengthen your relationship, but it will also help you celebrate the highs, overcome the lows and enjoy everyday life as you dance your way to a more fun and fulfilling marriage.
You don't need to be a dancer, you just have to love music and being in the arms of the one you love.
And to make things easy, I've included a guided dance break with bonus music for you and your spouse to dance to, that goes along with the theme of this episode.
These dance breaks will help the two of you tune out the chaos in life, tune into the love of your life and have fun dancing your way to a more fun and fulfilling marriage.
You can find this week's dance break and song at the top of this post.
Thanks for reading, and until next time, enjoy dancing your way to a more fun and fulfilling marriage.
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