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Has Your Marriage Taken A Hit Lately?
If you and your spouse feel like the last couple years have been rough on your relationship, you're not alone.
We've felt it too.
But, not to worry.
I’m going to share how my husband and I got our relationship back on track in the midst of the craziness going on in the world, and how you and your spouse can too.
When The World Shut Down In 2020, It Felt Like Our Life Got Turned Upside Down.
Date nights, vacations and all the fun ways we connected as a couple?
Cancelled.
And the worry and responsibility of trying to get our family back to stable ground, created a strain on us like no other time in our twenty years of marriage.
But amongst everything going on, we were determined to find a way to put our relationship back at the top of the priority list and reconnect as a couple, so we could continue enjoying life as a married couple like we used to.
And one of the ways we did that was by dancing.
Dancing Came To The Rescue During One Of The Most Stressful Times Of Our Marriage
Even though it was already a big part of our marriage, dancing took on a new role during the pandemic.
And that was by helping us reconnect as a couple, and get our relationship back on track.
Dancing together helped us regain:
emotional intimacy by allowing us to express our feelings for each other and connect with the emotion of the music
physical affection by allowing us to hold each other and enjoy being in each other's arms
and even social interaction, because we were able to dance and interact with other couples online, while everyone was stuck at home
Dancing is one of the best ways to nurture your relationship and spend quality time together, and even though it’s not the only way to connect as a couple, it's our favorite way, and I can't wait to share it with you.
If you and your spouse are feeling like your relationship could use a boost, and you want to take a break from everything going on in the world so you can refocus on each other, I have four simple steps you can take from home to start dancing your way to a more fun and fulfilling marriage.
Plus, I have a little something extra for you as well.
Now, if you're thinking, "but wait, we can't dance"
Not to worry, because you don't have to know how to dance to apply these steps.
So let's dive in!
Step 1. Pick Out Music That's A Good Fit For The Current Mood Of Your Relationship
Ups and downs are a common part of life, especially married life.
And the greatest thing about music is that…
There are songs to help you and your spouse overcome or celebrate whatever life throws your way.
For instance…
If you and your spouse are going through a stressful time, a relaxing song will help you unwind.
If life has been on the dull side, an upbeat song will add excitement to change up the mood.
Or if the passion in your relationship hasn't been as strong lately, there's a song to help you reignite the spark and bring back all the feels.
However you're feeling, there's music to help the two of you overcome the bad days, celebrate the good days, and deal with everything in between.
So choose a song, or songs, that align with however you're feeling, and are needed most in your marriage right now.
Better yet?
Whenever you hear songs you like, start building playlists for each emotion, so you have them ready when you need them.
Step 2. Hug-And-Sway To Meaningful Music To Reconnect As A Couple
Okay, I know I said you didn't need to know how to dance.
But, don't you worry.
Because I have something easy for you.
We're going to save the salsa, waltz, swing, and all the other typical dance styles for another time…
And focus on something you're probably pretty familiar with.
The dance style I want you and your partner to do is that trusty hug-and-sway we all did at high school prom.
Why?
Because I want to give you something really simple, so you're focused less on your feet and more on each other.
The goal here is to connect with each other on an emotional and physical level, with your mind, body, and soul…
And take a break from whatever is going on in your lives.
If you have something exciting happening, celebrate by dancing with your spouse to elevate your excitement.
If you're going through a rough patch in your relationship, dance to mend your marriage and heal your hearts.
If life gets busy and it's pulling you and your spouse in two different directions, dance to spend quality time together, and enjoy each other, without distraction.
Dancing is your go-to tool to deepen your bond and reconnect as a couple and strengthen your marriage anytime the mood strikes.
So just hug your spouse, sway back and forth to the music you picked out in step 1, and let the world fade away as you focus on each other.
Step 3. Choose Your Favorite Spots To Dance In Your Home
The beauty of the hug-and-sway is that it’s simple, and it doesn’t require a lot of space or special flooring, so you can do it anywhere in your home.
You can basically do it anywhere, or anytime, you like.
Want to kick off your morning by bonding with your spouse? Dance at the foot of your bed after you wake up.
Have a few minutes while dinner's in the oven? Dance in your kitchen.
Is there an epic song playing while the credits roll at the end of a movie? Dance in your living room.
Looking for a way to unwind and reconnect at the end of the night? Dance in your bedroom before you hop into bed.
Rich and I have danced in all these spots in our home as well, and it's our go-to activity for staying connected as a couple.
Remember, it doesn't have to be complicated.
That trusty hug-and-sway is all you need.
So just pick out your favorite spot to dance in your home, hug your spouse, and enjoy swaying back and forth to the music.
And if you already dance together, in other dance styles, and you're thinking this sounds way too easy.
Let it be.
Continue dancing, and add this hug-and-sway, as a simple way to get out of your head, get into your heart and nurture your relationship the way it deserves.
It's a simple concept with a big benefit.
Step 4. Set Reminders To Dance With Your Spouse On A Regular Basis
The more you and your spouse dance, the more it will strengthen your relationship.
Will you dance everyday?
Probably not.
Life happens, especially with work and family, but try dancing as many days as you can.
Sometimes the busy times are when you need quality time with your spouse the most, and dancing is one of the easiest ways to give each other the undivided attention you both deserve.
The key is to make it a habit so you can strengthen your relationship on a regular basis.
And it doesn't have to be a long period of time to reap all the benefits.
Just shoot for one song per day.
That's 2-3 minutes out of your day, that will give you and your spouse the undivided attention you deserve.
And once you figure out the times that work best for you, set daily reminders in your phone to prioritize this special one-on-one time with your spouse.
Dancing with your spouse is about so much more than just dancing. It's about devoting quality time to your spouse, so you can nurture each other, value each other, and put your relationship back at the top of the priority list where it belongs.
And once you do, I think you'll be surprised at how much more fun and fulfilling your relationship will be.
Thank you so much for taking an interest in our Dancing Through Marriage journey.
Remember, no matter what's going on in the world, you and your spouse are always just one dance away from a more fun and fulfilling marriage.
Okay, so I mentioned that I had something special for you and here it is…
If you would like more information, I've created a free step-by-step guide that will help you and your spouse get started dancing from home in a simple way...yes, even if you've never danced before.
You can grab the free guide, here.
Coming Up…
I've included a bonus episode right after this one, that will walk you and your spouse through a guided dance to music, to help you get started.
You don't have to be a dancer to participate. You just have to enjoy moving to music and being in the arms of the one you love.
See you in the next episode!